Why am I in love with her.....My best friend?

Started by sofamous70, Oct 13, 2011, 04:35 PM

sofamous70

If you're one of those guys who's begun having feelings for your female best friend(or just a female friend), these instructions might help. Dealing with it can be very tough.

1. Observe if she has the same feelings for you. Remember, she might look at you as a brother-figure and then be shocked when you tell her how you feel about her...this could ruin everything, but it could also make things better. Weigh the risks against the possibilities. Be careful about coming out too suddenly or openly. No matter what you have to say, there's always a gentle way to say it.

2. Take your time. Don't tell her right away- say things like,"You know, we've been friends for a long time," or "What would I do without you?" These are essentially harmless, subtle little hints of affection toward her. However, don't drop them too often, because then you will risk being too obvious.

3. Spend some time together. Have fun, even if you don´t have a humorous, brightly lively personality. Being serious or dark doesn't necessarily mean boring.

4. Humor may help. If you both have a sense of humor, tell each other jokes you like. It serves to entertain you both (and if you're lucky, you may get emotionally little closer before you even properly realize). If she's depressed or sad, comfort her. If you have an inside joke, use it when it fits the situation.

5. It's important to understand what she needs, and be there for her. If she wants a shoulder to cry on, be one. If she's cold, lend your jacket. Over time, she's bound to notice how great you are. You need to make sure she sees what a great boyfriend you would make, and starts thinking about the idea herself...

6. If you're lucky and compatible, things will work out. Most relationships are made long in advance, and are just waiting to happen...

7. After some time, you may just need to tell her. It's a lot easier for a guy than for a girl, since most girls are pretty considerate of feelings. Be patient, but don't wait for too long. In short, drop some subtle hints and give her a chance to understand you. When you think the time is right, give it a shot. Of course, you may risk ruining and/or losing your friendship or at least changing it even if you don´t want to, but if it turns out lucky, then she will be even more considerate of you and your feelings.

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emezico

Personally, l don't keep female friends for some reasons :D

sofamous70

There must be a good reason behind your reasons..:)

emezico


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