7 Ways to marry the wrong person

[sofamous70]

1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married:
The classic mistake. Never marry potential. The golden rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get married.

2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character:
Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in lust." Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's character?

3. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a woman needs most:
Men and women have unique emotional needs,  The unique need of a woman is to be loved -- to feel that she is the most important person in her husband's life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention.

4. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goals and priorities:
There are three basic ways we connect with another person:
chemistry and compatibility
share common interests
share common life goal

5. You choose the wrong person because you get intimately involved too quickly:
To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: "Do I respect and admire this person?"

6. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems and unhappiness:
If you are unhappy and single, you'll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them

7. You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don't feel emotionally safe:
Ask yourself the following questions: Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be myself and express myself with this person? Does this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way!

Aish

[emezico]

Three thing struck me while reading this post. These three concept should be center of attraction when choosing a life partner; chemistry and compatibility, sharing common interests, sharing common life goal.

This post is a good insight in making choices before saying "l do".

[sofamous70]

sharing common life goals will be paramount in my own view...:)though chemistry is also important..

[pugo]

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm. that is true God will help us