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sofamous70

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Is your spouse in-love with you?
« on: Sep 26, 2011, 05:59 PM »
If you were asked the above question?" what would you say. Or better yet, how would you find out?
Most people use two common techniques to determine whether or not their spouse is in-love with them,the techniques frequently used by people:

1. Ask

The straight forward approach is typically what most people use.

"Do you love me?" one would ask the other.
"Why, of course I do, Honey."
or
"What do you think?" replies the spouse.
And, if there is sincerity in the delivery, the questioning would stop right there.

However, if there was something insincere about the answer, the following technique would be used:

2. Observe

Does the actions of your spouse support the idea that they are in-love with you? Are you treated with care? Are you treated in a "loving" manner? Does your spouse act like he/she is in-love with you? This approach to answering the question of being in-love or not tends to be the litmus test. Most of us judge a person's heart by their actions. Right or wrong, that's what we do. When the actions are in direct conflict with what the person says, suspicion typically follows.

Although the above techniques are used on a frequent basis, they are both wrought with the potential for error.

Ask Yourself

Ask yourself "Should he/she be in love with me?" In other words, are you giving your spouse a reason to be in-love with you?

Emotional Needs and Love Busters

In order to answer your own question, you must first know two things:

1. What are your spouseļ¾’s most important emotional needs and how does he/she like them to be met?

2. What are your Love Busters (from your spouse's perspective) and have you eliminated them?
Without knowing the answers to the above questions, you are guessing. And what's more, if you don't know the answers, you are probably tainting your guesses with how you like your own needs to be met (emotional needs) and what you believe is irritating (Love Busters).

Bottom line:
You must be successful at developing and maintaining your skills to meet your spouse's needs and also, demonstrate an ability to protect him/her from yourself (your Love Busters). Because it boils down to this: If you're not successful at giving your spouse a reason to be in-love with you, then he/she won't be.

Food for thought...

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Is your spouse in-love with you?
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emezico

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Re: Is your spouse in-love with you?
« Reply #1 on: Sep 26, 2011, 09:12 PM »
In my view, observation is best way to know whether your spouse loves you or not.

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Re: Is your spouse in-love with you?
« Reply #2 on: Sep 27, 2011, 04:09 AM »
yes emmy i agree with you,as the word goes"actions speaks louder than voice"but as you know some people still like to be told how you feel about them or  they ask for a true confirmation, because they believe that a spoken word  is a way of showing your true passion and love...:)

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Re: Is your spouse in-love with you?
« Reply #2 on: Sep 27, 2011, 04:09 AM »