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sofamous70

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Look approachable (For Girls)
« on: Oct 09, 2011, 11:43 AM »
Parties and other social functions can really be a drag sometimes. You stand by the punchbowl or sit down on a sofa and watch everybody else mingling, but nobody seems to want to chat with you. You're attractive,witty and interesting; what's wrong with these people? It could be that you're sending out the wrong signals. No matter how beautiful you are or how good a conversationalist you can be, if you look intimidating, preoccupied or scared, people might not be inclined to talk to you.

1. Be aware of what your body is saying. We all speak with body language and you don't have to actually say anything to communicate a message to others. Unfortunately, your body may not always say what you want it to. If your gestures and posture are saying "I'm too busy", or "Leave me alone," it's not likely people will approach you. Other people watch your body for cues, so it's important to pay attention to what cues you're displaying.

2. Open up. When people are uncomfortable in a situation they have a tendency to display closed body language. Examples include folding your arms in front of you, hunching over, and positioning your body so that you're angled away from others. These signals imply that you'd rather be left alone. If you'd rather not be left alone, make sure you're displaying open body language by angling yourself toward other people, sitting or standing with an upright (but not stiff) posture, and uncrossing your arms.

3. Use your eyes. Your eyes are not only your window to the world, they're also other people's window into you. If you bury your head in a book, stare at the floor, or look up at the ceiling, you close that window. This is all well and good if you don't want to be bothered on your commute to work, but if you want to look friendly and approachable, scan your environment with your eyes, and don't be afraid to make eye contact with people

4. Smile. A warm, inviting smile can put anyone at ease, and it also makes you look like you're having a great time, which makes people want to be around you and get in on the fun. If you catch someone's eye, be sure to give a little smile, and be sure to smile often during small talk. It lets people know you appreciate talking to them

5. Approach others. If people aren't approaching you, why not go to them? Nothing makes you look more outgoing and approachable than actively seeking out people and talking to them. If you're in an environment where you don't know anybody, the longer you wait alone, the more uncomfortable you're bound to feel.

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Look approachable (For Girls)
« on: Oct 09, 2011, 11:43 AM »

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Re: Look approachable (For Girls)
« Reply #1 on: Oct 14, 2011, 12:01 PM »
l believe in girls looking neat and approachable. :)

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Re: Look approachable (For Girls)
« Reply #2 on: Oct 16, 2011, 06:51 PM »
well its good a girl is neat,but there is more to make a girl approachable than just been neat,then having a squeezed face and bad body language..the the neatness is no longer useful...i think girls should learn to soften up...:)

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Re: Look approachable (For Girls)
« Reply #2 on: Oct 16, 2011, 06:51 PM »