Different Reasons Why Women Get Married In Nigeria

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In Today's society, Marriage is an important issue and is something we all look forward to. By age 26, an average Nigerian as witnessed more than ten marriage ceremonies. It does not help also that society has a standard when it comes to what age a person should marry. In this opinion write up, our featured writer, Damola Aji delves into the reason why people.

Category A: PEER PRESSURE MARRIAGE
I'm almost in my final year in the higher institution (or even a graduate ), my next line of action is to find a man and settle down with and all my worries will become his and then I will be free.

An extension to the above category are the ones that go into marriage simply because their friends got married immediately after graduation, and thus, she equally has to get married. Unfortunately, this has turned to a natural norm.

Category B: AGE-TARGER MARRIAGE SEEKERS
These ones give themselves a target to get married (come what may) at a certain age, and so, any man that comes their way within that set period is almost always pushed to the wall to make some form of commitment or they will take a walk......well, the very desperate ones go spiritual, more like traditional.

Those that decide to take a walk, often say to themselves, "I don't have time for extensive courtship, I just want to get married". OK! One question for you please...............After the wedding and you are declared married, WHAT NEXT?

Category C: CLUELESS MARRIAGE SEEKERS
These set don't really have a clue as to why they want to get married or why they are even married..........YES O! They simply go back to their former ways of life, that is, life goes on as it used to be. The most appalling are the wayward ones, they simply continue in their waywardness, at least they are now married and can flaunt their 'gold ring' in people's faces, plus....their jumping from bed to bed skills freely giving to any man that's appealing to them, be it he is single or married.
Question: Why get married and incur the wrath for defiling the marital vows you took? You can stay single and freelance all you want.

Category D: THE COMPETITOR
The Independent woman.............hmmm!

She is ambitious, goal oriented, in most cases comes tops in whatever she sets her mind to do, yep we can rightfully say she is focused and would definitely make a wonderful wife................But ?

All her life, she sees everything as being a competition, that's right, life to her is a competition and only the strongest or willed deserves to have it all......martially speaking, she's too busy getting things done, acquiring one certificate of the other, overcoming one feat or the other and too busy to even give a thought to settling down..........an extremist one would say, but when it comes to the issue of settling down, her take is..."I don't think I want to throw away all that I have worked so hard for, just so a man will lord over me, sorry, marriage isn't for me"....or so it would seem. Oh Well, such ladies almost always end up getting a young man of high stock, worthy of their high prestige to impregnate her, just so she can conceive, have a kid or two, with no connection whatsoever to the man. The kids bear her name, they don't have a father. She probably paid him off, or he is ignorant of the kid(s)' existence.

Category E: THE FANTASIST
These ones love weddings, they have been to lots, and thus have formed an opinion about how theirs should be....elegant and a funfair of some sort, their drive is the one day of brouhaha, so the world can see that they did an elaborate wedding, with lots of frenzy and media coverage, that the entire world will get to see, read about and be green with envy, well, especially their friends and some family members. Afterwards, reality sets in and issues come up, give or take 2 – 3 years, marriage is gone.............hmmmmmm, let's just call this, 'Heads in the clouds wedding'.

Category F: THE ARRANGED MARRIAGE
Parents self interest 'arranged' marriage.......Need I say more?
The sole aim for this union, both parents have collective reasons their kids have to marry, could be to strengthen their business relationship, show commitment to their evergreen friendship from childhood and it would be wonderful to keep both families tied forever. Guess we can say the kids have no say in this, they just have to do their parent's biddings or they lose out of a mouth watering inheritance they would acquire if and only if they do what their parents demand.

At this point, you probably are getting my drift and if not....
Marriages are hinged on different reasons, some we can influence, others we probably don't have a strong say it, but in it all, ladies, don't go into marriage with belief that once you are married all your worries and problems becomes your husband's, NO MA, it doesn't work that way, the success or not of your marriage depends on you. YES YOU! The Bible says, "HE that FINDETH a WIFE, FINDETH a GOOD THING, and OBTAINS FAVOR from the LORD".
So what can you see? It isn't "she that findeth a husband..."
So how do you take charge of your home?

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[harrisonboge]

Nice writ up!

[emezico]

Nice writ up!

Thank you!

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