It is not a new thing for celebrity marriages to crash nowadays. In fact, it is more like boyfriends and girlfriends calling it quits right now. But despite this failure of many to keep their home, a few Nollywood relationships still stand all because of proper communication and an unexplainable love.
Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva, the mummy and daddy of the Nollywood industry as we fondly call them are an obvious example if you want one.
Having celebrated their 33rd wedding anniversary recently, the beautiful couple can come out to brag that they have that marriage locked down.
But Joke Silva isn’t doing that. Instead, she recently said at an interview during a movie press conference that everything hasn’t been as rosy as it seems.
She also shared the secret behind lenghty marriage to legendary actor, Olu Jacobs.
She said “The journey has been incredible and extremely interesting. It has also been one of learning. I don’t think anybody can ever prepare anyone for marriage. I had friends who were married until one partner died or death did them part and well over 40 years we’re each other’s friends. They had their challenges and they weathered the storm. Those were my role models. Knowing full well that there will be storm, I soon realised that my storms were totally different from their own storms. I wasn’t prepared for my own storms”.”
The multi-talented actress also spoke about some of the moral lessons she has picked from her successful marriage over the years.
“When my own storms too came, it was also a learning curve for both sides (my husband and I), we both had to learn to forgive each other. I learnt that marriage is not a destination; it’s a continuous journey, and somehow, it seems like the enemy knows that, so he says, “So, you weathered this storm, let me throw another one, let me see whether you will weather this one.”
When asked if she thought divorce could be an option, she said, ” I think that if you are in a situation that you cannot tolerate bearing in mind that we all of us have different thresholds of pain be it emotional or otherwise. Please if you have reached your threshold, life is not hard, please carry your load and go. Because if you leave they will talk and if you stay they will still talk. There are some people who needed to leave because they wanted to maintain their sanity, if they didn’t leave they will go mad. There is life after a divorce.”