Stop Guilt-Tripping Mothers When They Step Out Without Their Kids – Kiekie

Popular content creator and Nollywood actress, Kiekie has come out to open up about the societal pressures and unsolicited opinions. She recently revealed that people have a lot of things to say to her since she got married and became a mother, and fans have been reacting.

According to her, she gets very confused when people say she doesn’t dress like a married woman, and she also does not understand the constant guilt-tripping mothers experience when they step out without their kids.

Kiekie added that we cannot expect change to come from the men, so women themselves need to be reoriented.

Her words, “I started seeing the comments where people were telling me that I don’t dress like a married woman. I literally had to Google the dress code of a married woman and didn’t see anything. Nobody has said anything about how married women are supposed to dress.

I have noticed also that when you have a child and you go out, the first thing people ask you is where your child is. You can see me in a club at 1am, why would the child be here? Are you trying to guilttrip me? I don’t get it.

The one that gets to me is that even when people compliment me they say things like ‘you have a husband who can help you.’ and to them it’s a compliment, you’re insulting me.

They’re thinking I don’t have any problems because I have a husband. If you want to do something, I can meet my husband, it makes no sense. I’m the one who is meant to fight for my dreams not using him as a backup plan. We have a very long way to go because women themselves need to be reoriented. We can’t expect change to come from the men, it has to come from us.”

WOW.

Nollywood is a sobriquet that originally referred to the Nigerian film industry. The origin of the term dates back to the early 2000s, traced to an article in The New York Times. Due to the history of evolving meanings and contexts, there is no clear or agreed-upon definition for the term, which has made it a subject to several controversies.

The origin of the term “Nollywood” remains unclear; Jonathan Haynes traced the earliest usage of the word to a 2002 article by Matt Steinglass in the New York Times, where it was used to describe Nigerian cinema.

Charles Igwe noted that Norimitsu Onishi also used the name in a September 2002 article he wrote for the New York Times. The term continues to be used in the media to refer to the Nigerian film industry, with its definition later assumed to be a portmanteau of the words “Nigeria” and “Hollywood”, the American major film hub.

Film-making in Nigeria is divided largely along regional, and marginally ethnic and religious lines. Thus, there are distinct film industries – each seeking to portray the concern of the particular section and ethnicity it represents. However, there is the English-language film industry which is a melting pot for filmmaking and filmmakers from most of the regional industries.